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Dear Tiny Wedding Planner,
I love my father, he’s generally a good guy. He is a little irritating sometimes. My family, and I include myself in this, rarely discuss emotions and weddings involve emotions. He thinks spending money on a wedding is a complete waste of time so we have not gotten along well.
Problems are twofold.
1. Should my dad walk me down the aisle? Do I need someone to walk me down the aisle? For stability in outrageous heels perhaps? If he cares not for the way in which I am to be married should he have the honor?
2. Should he be allowed to orate? I worry he will drink too much and that he will say mean or grumpy things that will hurt my feelings or slur his words.
I know I should probably have made up my own mind but I really know not what to do. Please do tell me what you think I should do.
Sincerely,
Dear Anna,
Thank you for your letter. You should have somebody else walk you down the aisle. You need someone to walk you down the aisle because you need to hold somebody’s hand. I would be nervous if I was walking down the aisle and everybody at the wedding was looking at me and I would want someone to walk with me. Your dad should not walk you down the aisle because your dad says mean things sometimes that hurt your feelings. He cannot give a speech either because he says mean things and grumpy things sometimes.
From,
Tiny Wedding Planner
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*Note: Anna’s letter was edited slightly to make it easier for TWP to understand. TWP dictated her answer and Sarah typed it. TWP read it and approved the message. Then she went outside to play.
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Thank you so much TWP.
You know you really are a clever girl. I would love to meet you. It’s such a shame I live so far away. Stupid huge Atlantic Ocean!
What I’m going to do is go and see my Daddy next weekend and have a long talk with him. Maybe he wants to be super nice on my wedding day? Maybe he doesn’t. But he is my Daddy and I want to give him a chance to be nice. What do you think?
Can I let you know what happens?
Dear Anna,
You should talk to your Daddy. If he promises not to say mean things that hurt your feelings, you should let him walk you down the aisle. He should give a speech too.
From,
Tiny Wedding Planner
So straight to the point and practical. You rock TWP!
Dear TWP:
You are the best. Please tell your mom that she is all sorts of wonderful for doing this.
Adoringly,
Jo
I wonder if these TWP posts are going to make my cry every time, or just today?
omg. i love TWP. wise and honest.
Excellent advice; I hope TWP becomes a regular feature. She seems very wise.
Also, I cannot explain how much I love the Dear Abby format
We’re still working on getting the formatting to work (curses, WordPress), but I’m partial to the Dear Abby newspaper advice column format too.
I love TWP. I need to send my question in pronto.
TWP is an absolute star!!
i love twp! best answer i’ve heard in forever. so honest and refreshing and matter of fact. can she answer any questions i have, even if they’re not wedding related?
Yes, just email them to sfbudgetwedding@gmail.com and address them to Tiny Wedding Planner. She’s very opinionated and thoughtful.
Children can be honest in a way we can’t. And your tiny wedding planner is obviously wise in addition to honest. This sweetness made my afternoon.
TWP is brilliant. I definitely agree. I’m dealing with a completely similar thing…and her advice is so pure and true. “He says mean things – so he can’t make a speech.”
amazing! I can’t wait to write to the TWP (I was going to write: ” I can’t wait to write to your sweet tiny wedding planner!” but that somehow sounded dirty ha ha). your little one is the best and is truly wise beyond her years
This whole idea is completely full of win!
I dunno TWP – Walking solo down the aisle can be quite meaningful. I know several brides who made this choice with no regrets. One woman walking solo towards her man? That can be powerful stuff.
I’m just sayin’. Though, I will submit to your expertise.
TWP tends to be a little shy in crowds and still prefers to hold my hand and hide when meeting new people. I’m sure she’ll see the power of walking solo someday. Then again, I have to admit, I love holding hands.
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